do not criticize, codemn or complain
taken from the mother night program on sounds true
these words from dr clarissa pinkola estes ring in my head
on dark days,
days of light
and….
those days of which the sky changes constantly from moment to moment… each moment bringing with it challenges and boons, sadness and joy as if the universe is throwing me encounters and thoughts to see what I can handle
to see what I’m made of
these words are a balm
do not criticize, condemn, or complain…
for so long
all i did was
criticize
condemn
and complain
( i believe in part it has something to do with my virgo rising chart, i incarnated on this planet to help create efficiency, to help things run smoothly, to trim away the unnecessary, to remind everyone what we are capable of. this leads to having an eye for whats going wrong… not just to point it out but to point it out and then figure out how to move forward in a way that is better. virgo risings are here to help us all level the fuck up! sometimes the constructive part gets lost and I wind up just being super critical.)
criticism is the soup in which i learned how to swim
the ferment of which my soul was distilled
its where I’m comfortable
its really easy to tell people and myself what they and i am doing wrong
its really easy to blame the outside world for its folly
its really easy to complain
ease is not as luxurious as i once thought
since hearing these words months ago my world has been changing…
[do not criticize, condemn or complain ]
…changing slowly
these words make me kinder
these words make me more curious
these words bring me joy!
it has led me down the path of communication repair…
how do i communicate with the world around me?
what i noticed?
i talk a lot about other people or society in general.
i noticed people around me talk a lot about other people.
humans talk a lot about other people
usually complaining criticizing or condemning.
so,
i challenged myself:
stop talking about people that are not in the room
this leads to awkwardness.
a conversational leveling up of sorts, strengthening the muscle of mindful conversation
I’m embarrassed. I’m ashamed. I’m fucking angry.
my entire conversational lexicon relied so heavily on criticizing condemning and complaining i hardly have anything to say.
I’m curious…
do i really need to say that much? whats my body felt sense of silence? why am i so uncomfortable in it? and, was all of this criticizing condemning and complaining just a way of filling the silence i wasn’t comfortable sitting in?
I’m going to chew on this for a bit…
the three c’s i am working on…
compassion (having it)
community (tending to it)
curiosity (living from it)
somatically minded 